Look at them, at their best...

Photos of my Dad and Mum sit on my dresser: I spend more time looking at them these days. Years since I've seen them alive. Hard to remember what it felt like to be their little boy. Easier to remember just visiting them in hospitals. Reading that sentence helps me see how narrow and skewed my memories can get. It sucked to be a kid or a teen or in your twenties and to know that they were never going to get better or be happier, and that at least you could focus your hope on your own survival. Maybe one day, even a little joy. I've found my bliss and a satisfying arc to my life since then.

So here's to who they were, or might have been, in sweeter days:

Angela, maybe 25 or more, wearing a mink coat and elegant in white gloves, standing like a model, on the airport runway before boarding a plane. A woman leaving Victoria, going somewhere - maybe flying off to a music conservatory back east to sing opera and play the piano. She could make music for herself or someone else...

Jim, the toughest man I knew, sitting shirtless at 40, sunburned after a day of driving tractor. Sometimes, as a technician, he worked way up in the high-tension radio transmission towers in Saskatchewan, free and above it all, damn-near in the clouds. He lived for hard work and a strong role to fill. Happy in the sun...

I'll make of them what I will to honour who they might have been.